Marry young — divorce young
Allow yourself to marry, and divorce after a certain time.
I married at a young age; I was only 20 and yes; it was love. I thought it was love. I followed my heart and decided that I want to deepen the relationship and do this step.
My ex-husband was from another country, so we had a distance relationship and I always liked full things. Meanly, I always liked to define things, circumstances as black and white.
So, we married, but I must confess that a couple of days before the wedding I wanted to break up and at the wedding day I had a strange gut feeling.
We started our life together; he had to learn the language; we had to find a job for him. All the integration in the new culture, new system, and all circumstances were challenging. We lived together, and I had got to know the person completely. I was managing everything; it was a kind of normal for me. Sometimes I felt that I’m missing something. Sometimes the question popped up: What I’m actually doing with my life?
Surely, we had beautiful moments together; we did great things, but I felt as I was functioning like a robot and with the time, we hadn’t a lot of common things. I grew, I changed mentally and emotionally. I saw we hadn’t the same goals for the future.
After five years, I quit this marriage and decided that I wanted the divorce. It wasn’t so easy. A lot of thoughts go through your head, you are questioning you all the time. But today after over 8 years I can with full of my heart say that this was the best decision of my life.
I don’t want to promote divorces. I believe in the institution of marriage, and I believe souls recognize each other and live over 30 years together.
However, for myself I’ve learnt that I have to listen also to my feelings and my heart and not only what I think is right. The age or maturity doesn’t matter, the consciousness of your feelings is important and that you trust yourself and listen fully to yourself.
And if you see after a few years that the feeling isn’t anymore the same, then change it. Don’t judge you, it’s okay to finish relationship. Nobody is glad in a poor relationship.
We aren’t on this planet to live systems, traditions, and what our society thinks is right. We are here to be ourselves.
